The Power of the Pen

  Excerpts from: The Sisterhood is Broken
~By Amber Rogers

Yes, dear hearts, the sisterhood is indeed broken. The fact that you live, breathe, and feel the negativity of its fragments is case and point! Merriam-Webster defines sisterhood as the relationship between sisters; an association, society, or community of women linked by a common interest, religion, or trade who are bonded by solidarity.

“In order to show up as a willing participant in any relationship, we must first show up to self. We must be our own very present “self” in our own times of trouble; showing up with our arsenals filled and overflowing with the sustenance of self-love, self confidence, self-esteem, and unconditional love. When this balm is applied to and administered to us first, then and only then can we reach out and help our fellow sisters. And so, I put to the sisters this question: "How can you even begin to administer kindness, forgiveness, forbearance, joy and nurturing toward your fellow sister's mote when you haven't taken care of the beam in your own eye?" The bonds of the sisterhood should be safe and empowering, however, we have allowed the little foxes of external forces to bind us and the cares of this life has left us in a broken state. I found my self revisiting this post when the sisterhood, was once again drug onto the exposure of the carpet by a famous Talk Show Host, who applied the crabs in a barrel tactic to a now thriving Social Media sweetheart. I did a double take when this sister was disparaged and insulted by other “sisters” on their platforms for doing what she thought was right for her family. The Wendy Williams’ of this world will never understand the grace of my friend, Tabitha Brown, whose decision to support her husband of 23 years and allow him to shine set off a media storm!. Is this what were doing now? We’re tearing down on sister who relishes in the blessing in her life that now allow her husband to retire from the dangers of Law enforcement and with great joy and support she ever so sweetly admonished to the world” Look what God had done! the rumble and disparagement was brutal until she emerged as the queen that she is and took the scepter that God ha as her mic and set the world straight.

"He left you, so in return, you hurt her. He has disrespected you, so you continually disrespect her"... There is no honor amongst many of us because we feel dishonored. There is no building up of each other because we have been broken down. There is no support for "her" in her endeavors because we feel unsupported. Many of us experienced this phenomenon recently when a very famous talk show host attacked another up and coming Social Media personality on her show. The “crab mentality that was exhibited in her ridiculous statement that “my husband cheated, when I tried to support his dream” set the internet on Fire.

a perfect example of this nonsence wasThe Sisterhood is only as strong as its weakest link. When ignorance has run amok in our society and loneliness has told that sister that "he's the last brother on the shelf, and that you can't live without him," she allows her survival instincts to take over and intrinsically becomes a hoarder. She goes into survival mode; self-preservation!

However, when you are a hoarder of life everything that you don't need comes in and nothing goes out! And therein lies the state of the Sisterhood; stockpiled on self-preservation, isolated by individual needs and agendas. "Sisters, we have taken what is not ours out of greed and disrespect for each other. We speak negativity against each other out of bitterness, and our mantra has proven to be "I'm gonna get mine!"
The African American Sisterhood should reign as a covenant relationship. A contract of the heart, written In love and administered from the healing place of love. Each joint respecting the frailties, diversity, and nuances of each link.
Then and only then will we be able to do away with this "bad bitch, boss chick, parking-lot-fighting-at the-local-gas-station, baby-mama-drama", that this new generation of sisters have picked up on. A broken thing is a broken thing until it is mended. Looking and wishing and hoping does not make it "not so"...ijs😇